International Students Archive

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Accepting “MY” Imperfections

You are imperfect. I am imperfect. That’s part of being human. There’s something so “old news” about it all. Yet it seems like we are all hiding with terror from this reality of not being perfect...Witnessing and accepting our imperfections isn’t weakness. It’s an act of love. It breeds freedom and

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5 Steps to Living Your Dream

So here you are in January, with 12 months ahead of you.  Another opportunity for a fresh start. An opportunity to go within and ask, “what do I really want for my life in 2014?” Sure, you can do it anytime.  But there is something magical about the beginning of the year

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Befriend Your Fears and Thrive

I was watching the movie, Monsters University, with my kids recently. Through the laughs, I saw some realities for us adult folks.  After years of living, each of us has come to own the one, two, or more things that scares the living bijiggers out of us.  Like the movie, our minds

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How I Became More Socially American: One Encounter at a Time

I was in seventh grade, at dinner at my friend’s house. At the table were her parents, my friend and me. It was a low key affair. We were having hamburgers. Across the table were tomatoes that I desperately wanted. My mind urged me to “just ask!”.

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My Daughter’s Initiation with Racism

My daughter talks about this older Caucasian man, in a Patriot’s sweatshirt, who came abruptly to the table my mother and daughter were sitting at as they were finishing their lunch and declared, “you guys are finished and you need to leave”. Both stunned, it took my mother a bit

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Want Engagement? Show That You Notice and Care.

After my leadership workshops, individuals who approach me tend to ask one fundamental question, "how do I get my boss to notice the work I do?". A deeper question they're asking is, "how do I know if I really matter?". Each one of us who breathes wants to know we matter.

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Recognizing Our American Cultural Bias For “Passion”

When I coach non-Americans, especially Asians, to interview effectively for a US job, I emphasize the need to express their "passion" for their work or their "deep interest" for a potential job. Nine times out of ten, when I ask about this passion, I see Asian students searching my face, seeking

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How I Prepare and Engage in Networking – A Perspective

I've had the wonderful opportunity to support many professionals and students as they embark and improve on their professional networking. It's the one thing we know we "should" do but it's one of the most challenging things to actually do. Trust me. I know. I still have to work

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Transition – A Dance with Aspirational Anxiety

Whenever we arrive at a new opportunity, whether it's a new job, a new school or a new life situation, we all hope for the best in our new chapter. Yet, at the very same time, we feel understandable anxiety in this place of the unknown. We have leapt, but

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A Trip to Beijing Elucidates Why Asian Students Lack of “Voice” in Classroom and Job Search

As I've been touring the historical sites of Beijing (the Great Wall, the Summer Palace, the Forbidden City and the Temple of Heaven) and driving through the streets of today's Beijing, I have seen first hand how our cultural history affects how we think, feel and act today. My work allows