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A Candid Wake Up Call to Professionals of Color and Women — How You Must Care for Your Career in an Anti-DEI Context
From Judy’s Medium Page: For women and professionals of color (POCs), I hope you’re re-calibrating how you engage with your professional and career development. That is,
Fierce Mother in Body and Spirit
I got to spend another Mother’s Day with my mother this year. It was the first year in my life that I realized this day
One Mother’s Loss is a Loss for Every Mother in the World
For the past several weeks, I’ve carried a deep sadness as violence and death have continued in Gaza and in too many geographies in our
Why Am I So Anxious in a Charming New England Town?
Since the pandemic, I haven’t taken my annual 4-day retreat where I get to be a hermit, stocked with food and drink, books and journals
Lunar New Year – A Rootedness in Family Connections and Identity
I’ve come to see that holidays are a way for people and societies to reinforce what matters in their culture. Food and customs, passed from
Taiwan-China Tensions: Revisiting Family Heartbreak
I was in high school when I found my father sitting at the desk in my parents’ bedroom, face in his hands, sobbing. It was the only time I’d ever seen my father cry. He had been separated from his family for 40 years, when he became a teenage refugee, from China to Taiwan…
Self-Gratitude May Just Improve Your Performance Review
Many professionals undervalue their contributions because they think they’re not enough, but self-gratitude comes from our wholeness and allows us to recognize and own our contributions to our work, which will surely help with our performance reviews.
Separation Anxiety
Tomorrow my Alyssa leaves for NYC for 8 weeks. I sit next to her as she naps, excited for her adventure ahead, all the while
Covid Life – Recluse, Re-Emergence and Ritual
…The day finally arrived this Memorial Day weekend when the four of us and Popo dared to venture out together to visit my father and brother in New York, the first time in over a year. It was cold, windy and wet, but my 87 year old mother determinedly walked to her husband’s gravesite and read the poem she wrote for him that’s etched on the tombstone. We lit incense, bowed in respect and ran back to the car as lightning and thunder reverberated through the skies. After all the sadness, loss and separation, we returned to each other through this family ritual, marking the passing as well as the continuation of our shared journey.
Catching My Breath in Drowning Waves of Death
2020 Ahmaud Aubery Breonna Taylor George Floyd Protests Black Lives Matter Awakening of America to what has always been for black people in America
Asian-American Population & Details
WHICH COUNTRY OF ORIGIN HAS THE HIGHEST POPULATION? WHICH ASIAN-AMERICAN GROUP HAS THE MOST COLLEGE EDUCATION? WHICH ARE THE TOP 5 COUNTRIES OF ORIGIN FOR ASIAN-AMERICANS? SEE FIRST CHART WHAT IS THE POLITICAL AFFILIATION OF MOST ASIAN-AMERICANS? Source for all data: http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/asianamericans
At 50: A Retrospective on Choosing Motherhood over Corporate Leadership
Yesterday morning, being Mother’s Day, my husband and kids asked where I wanted to go to celebrate. I told them I just wanted to stay home on that rainy day, and cocoon with them in our family room. I was in my PJs and I just wanted to relish my time with them. I had just returned from a funeral
YOU are the Only Antidote to these Uncertain Times. What Footprints Do You Choose to Leave?
What I know for sure is that each of us can choose what we take in from the outside world. Each of us has a choice to filter our world and create a life of our choice. We are not without control. And so this is my charge, my mission: To engender the BEST SELF and BELONGING in as many people as I can. I turn to you: What is your charge, in these times?
5 Questions to Pinpoint Your 2017 Career Goals
It’s January. Naturally, our human cycle likes beginnings and endings. So go with the flow: Make time this long holiday weekend to define your 2017 career goals! When we set life goals, we tend to be both excited and anxious: “I really hope that I will…” as well as “but what if it doesn’t pan out? I’ll be so disappointed”. This tension stops us
Ways to Help Students Cope with Post-Election Anxieties and Harassment
Last week, I was coaching an international alumni working in the US who asked me if she would be safe to work in the US even though she already has an H1-B visa. Will that change? What should she do? Should she expedite her permanent residency process? She was truly concerned. Another student I know, who was speaking Spanish on
Hard Work Doesn't Pay Off
Hard work and efficacious results gets you a table in the office. It doesn’t necessarily give you better projects or a bigger title and office.
It's Time American Universities Take Responsibility for International Chinese Students' Welfare
As I read the Wall Street Journal article, “Heavy Recruitment of Chinese Students Sows Discord on US Campuses” my heart sank. I felt my heart’s sadness for the Chinese student, Chutian Shao, mentioned in the article, and simultaneously deep disappointment at our institutions of higher learning for allowing this craziness to go on — and impatience with the faculty members cited, who criticized students
A Leading CEO Who is Honest, Caring and Practical About Race in the Workplace
I had the wonderful pleasure of being a panelist at the Blue Cross Blue Shield “Racial Diversity in Today’s Workplace” event last week. While many leaders talk about their commitment to diversity and inclusion, I felt a deep sense of personal commitment when their CEO, Andrew Dreyfus gave his opening remarks. I found myself swelling with emotions and hope as
Does Your Use of Time Serve YOU?
I run a business that I love. The only reason I do it is because I care deeply about its impact. My use of time has to matter. More than ever, time is perishably precious. Precisely because of its perishability I’ve had to mold and partner with time…Time has taught me that it is malleable and I can do with it as I choose. I have learned that with clarity of my values and purpose, time for work and life can be molded to fit in form and function. It may take some wrangling and iterations, but that’s also the process of life.
African-American Professor Portraits Defaced at Harvard – From Rage to Sadness to Compassionate Curiosity
In this moment, I have only one response. Compassion. Compassion for all involved and affected. We must open ourselves to a possibility beyond a clear right or wrong. We have to go beyond believing that a punitive measure will address the real issue. What we need is authentic understanding of each other.
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