As I’ve gathered with my friends, I have come to a place of impatience. Impatience with how so many of us, myself included, have been waiting to live as full a life as possible. It may be the condition of humans. But I do find this affliction more prevalent with women and oddly, with highly gifted women. It seems our success in working incredibly hard to meet the surprising approval of our external world is the very thing that has kept us waiting…and waiting…before we dare to truly breathe our life.
The “big day” is tomorrow, hyped and hyped for months. Apparently $3billion (!) will have been spent in advertising alone, breaking the record for mid-term elections. As hard as it is for me to stay on the sidelines, I’ve been trying my best to “watch” this experience. How I am. How others are. How the media portrays x, y or z.
One of the discussion points that I found particularly riveting was the question of how do we know when we’ve hit the boundaries of what is “comfortable and acceptable” for me?
In America, if you want a successful career, you must be willing to recognize your uniqueness and your capability. You must proudly let the world know. Be open to respecting and celebrating all your wonderful accomplishment.
As record numbers of international students arrive onto US campuses, I am reminded of how tenuous a time it is for so many students. Arriving in a new country without family, finding and setting up home, becoming functional in a new culture and establishing a foothold in our academic setting — wow!
It is understandable that we find comfort in the familiar. The route we take to work everyday, our daily routines, the people we hang out with, our certainty that we are right on any given topic. Familiarity allows us to master our surroundings so we can feel safe, confident and competent. But constant familiarity, doing and thinking the same way, starts to close off our world to new possibilities and new connections.
In my coaching work, I spend a significant amount of time helping my clients find the power and beauty of who they already are. It’s only with embracing their core strength that my clients can utilize the new tactical skills (communications or management) to develop to their fullest potential.
Once we own our uniqueness, it is through our persistent work of courage and optimism that our hopes will find its expression in the world.
This Valentine’s Day, take the opportunity to listen to your true heart’s desire. About work. About finding work. About your loved ones. Dare to live in the vulnerability of your LOVE. This is the stuff legends are made of. Summon up your cup of Courage and dive into a life steeped in true LOVE.
In a room of “strangers,” the process of storytelling and dream visioning enabled the whole group to come together as one, with the group supporting each individual’s quest through supportive observations, enabling questions and cheerleading.